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Why Every Day Learning Matters More Than We Think

Author: Sean D'Souza

Why Sales Pages Are Annoyingly Difficult to Write

We all seem to know how every day matters.

However, what causes people to plateau suddently and how does every day activity help in avoiding that messy situation? Dig deeper into the very average concept of every day learning and you’ll see it’s anything but mundane.

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When's the best time to get a natural looking photo of a person?

If you've ever tried taking a photo of a person or a group, you usually end up with the same cheesy look. That's because people put on a fake smile just for the camera. They're all smiling but you can tell it's a posed photo.

However, just after you've clicked the photo, they tend to relax. If you had kept clicking, there's a pretty good chance you'd have got a more natural looking picture.

Okay, so now that you've read this information, will you implement it?

If you're like most people, the chances of implementing this idea is really bleak. Part of the reason why we forget is because we're not using the raw power of “everyday”.

We all know and have been told repeatedly that “everyday matters” but we chalk it down to “practice”, when there are other things in play. Let's look at why everyday activities outperform something you'd do every now and then. Let's look at three broad areas:

Every day matters because:

1- Book concepts come alive.
2- It helps you make progressive mistakes.
3- Get to harness serendipity.


1) Book Concepts Come Alive

Have you ever seen a Jeep with 50 people on it?

While in Rajasthan, India, we encountered transport systems quite different from those in other parts of the world. Every day, people living up in the hills need to get down into the valley to work on the farms.

Since there is no public transportation, private vans are the primary means of transport. It's commonplace to see two dozen people sitting in the jeep and another two dozen on top.

I somehow had to take a few photos but had no idea how to do so.

Imagine my surprise when I pointed the camera at the jeep moving at high speed, and it came to a complete halt. The driver had decided that it was fine for me to take as many pictures as I needed.

A second earlier, the passengers on the jeep were absorbed in their world. One second later, they were posing for me. I got my picture, and they all smiled and laughed. The van sped off.

That's when I realised I'd made a critical mistake.

Instead of continuing to click the images, I put the camera down. I'd got a lovely set of posed photos but nothing that captured the natural behaviour of the people on the van.

I was a bit annoyed with myself because I'd read not once but many times about how a photographer should keep clicking because the moment after the pose is when you often get a natural look.

Book concepts don't easily translate to action.

When we started this article, I mentioned how it's essential to take a picture once people have stopped posing. Then, the Jeep story continued to underline an identical idea.

The idea of “taking pictures once people have stopped posing”. However, reading something in a book doesn't get most of us to take action.

It's only when you make the mistake repeatedly that the idea sear into your memory.

When you and I do something every day, we have the chance to make the same mistake repeatedly. When we stumble, we realise we're making an error and recall what we've read.

However, without somehow doing the activity every day, you simply don't get the chance to make the mistake often enough.

If you want to eliminate errors in your life, you have to make them repeatedly.

Almost anyone will boast about being the “world champion” in making mistakes. However, the frequency of the errors is crucial. In the movie Groundhog Day, the character relives the same day repeatedly. However, because he's aware of the mistake that's about to occur, he avoids it altogether.

If you're a writer and want to avoid making the same mistakes, write daily.

If you're learning a language like French and making mistakes with a specific portion, go at it daily. If you're a dancer and not quite into it, watching YouTube videos may not help you as much as you'd believe.

It's easy to believe the concept of “practise, practise, practise.”

However, this isn't about “practice.” It's about taking a concept you've read about, watched, or listened to and putting it into your everyday work. You make the mistake repeatedly until one day, the mistake disappears completely. This is the first reason why “every day” matters.


2) It helps you make progressive mistakes.

In America, 97% of the population seems to have ketchup in their homes. Yet, ketchup isn't American at all.

The word originates from a Hokkien Chinese word ,kê-tsiap, and was originally a sauce derived from fermented fish. The recipes seemed to change once the British encountered the sauce, but they added ingredients such as mushrooms, walnuts, oysters, and even anchovies.

The ketchup was thin and dark then and lacked the ingredients we know so well. All ketchup had no tomato.

It's not like a tomato ketchup solved the problem, either. When tomato growers tried to preserve tomato pulp, the sauce was often contaminated with bacteria, spores, yeast and mould. They'd add sodium benzoate to counter this spoilage, which is as nasty as it sounds.

It's only when a Pittsburgh man named Henry. J. Heinz decided to remove the benzoate and work on another formula containing vinegar—did we get the early version of today's tomato ketchup?

In other words, the ketchup we enjoy today was the result of a lot of evolution. As terrible as it sounds, evolution needs to make a lot of mistakes. Working on something on an everyday basis is a bit like inventing ketchup. You have to make many errors and rectify them as you go along.

Once again, people will tell you that they make mistakes.

The reality is they don't make enough of them. Most people make a few hundred mistakes a year when they should be dealing with thousands. Daily work allows you to make these mistakes progressively.

Take the example of my watercolour work.

In 2010, I went to a watercolour class because I was truly horrid with watercolours. Until that point, I'd never used paints from tubes and depended on a terrible plastic palette.

I had no idea how to use paper or avoid the big cauliflowers that form when you add too much water to the paper. However, after two or three classes, I thought I'd made excellent progress.

I went up to the teacher, proudly showing him my work.

He looked at it and made a suggestion: Is there something you can do daily? He asked me. I thought about it and decided I could draw and paint a very basic diary in watercolour.

At this point, 5,582 have elapsed. Yes, I've been drawing almost every day in watercolour, and while I have more “modest” 4000+ paintings, I see them as more than 4000 progressive mistakes.

I know they're mistakes because I can tell you what I'd fix.

I can pick up a book from 2014 and tell you what was off with those drawings. I could just as easily open a page from 2018 and describe how I'd change the thickness of paint, font, or even how I laid out the page. When creating the image, I was doing the best I could. However, I was making progressive mistakes.

Every day doesn't literally mean every single day.

There are gaps along the way. There have been times when I've not done, or wanted to do a thing for two months at a stretch. However, I eventually crawl back and get moving to make more mistakes and fix them as I move ahead.

The same principle applies to my language learning or the courses I create. The courses seemed terrific back in 2005. Yet, two decades later, we're still finding mistakes in the content, the delivery, how to teach, etc. You may not do a course, write, or draw every single day, but there must be a semblance of an ongoing journey.

Making progressive mistakes lets you develop speed.

Talent is really “science at high speed”. You think the person is talented when someone does something systematically at a mind-boggling pace.

Yet, the factor that slows us down is the number of mistakes we make. You will never achieve the desired speed without making and reducing progressive mistakes.

Mistake-making is crucial.

You must make progressive mistakes when making an omelette, a painting or tomato ketchup. As you can tell, you can only progress when you make a lot of them.

Hence, if you run into that person who tells you they're making mistakes “all the time”, you need to remind them to ramp up the errors so they can fix most of them as they go along.

Every day matters. Plus, there's a third reason: serendipity.


3) Serendipity

In the past, I'd remove my fancy camera about thrice a year. Usually only when going on a trip or for some special occasion. Then, I got some advice that improved my photography forever. I was told, “Take your camera wherever you go.”

I take my camera to weddings, the cafe, and even dinner.

Some people who haven't seen me in a while only have to see the camera to know it's me. However, this anecdote isn't about me or even about photography. Instead, it's about creating more surface area by doing something almost daily. The more you show, the more chances you have of something happening.

If you do something infrequently, it better turn out right.

On the other hand, if you do something every day, you tend to experiment. Maybe you sketch every day and decide to try a new pen or a different style.

Also, doing something frequently helps you notice patterns. You see what works and what doesn't. Doing something regularly doesn't guarantee magic. However, it does create a doorway.

However, there's a chance you do a lot. How can you fit it into every day?

Remember when you first learned how to drive? You had to focus on everything to keep the car on the road. Even starting up was a challenge in itself. Yet, today, you and I probably think nothing of driving. You might not drive for months, and then you're right into it.

This ability to do things at high speed directly results from doing something every day until you get quick at it. Once you get quick, you develop more skills and can do the same task easily. It's often a lot faster.

At first, a skill takes you ages. Then, as you get faster, you can add more into the mix until you get to the point where you no longer have to make excuses. You can do half a dozen—if not a dozen activities without breaking into a sweat.

That's how you can fit a lot of activities into any day. It won't happen today or tomorrow. But before you know it, 5,582 will pass. And you'll be stunningly good at many skills. Or not. It all depends on whether you have an everyday plan in place.


25 Years Of Writing: Simple Advice That Will Improve Your Articles

Author: Sean D'Souza

Improve your articles

Improve your articlesI’ve now been writing articles for 25 years.

And in those 25 years I’ve learned some things that you may not always find on a writing site, or even in any writing article. Read this article and you’ll suddenly have a completely different view of how to go about writing your article.

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I learned one of my biggest lessons about writing in a Chinese restaurant.

It was our first trip to the U.S., and my sister-in-law suggested we grab some takeaway from the local Chinese place. Nothing fancy—just a casual dinner. But when I entered the restaurant, something unexpected caught my attention.

There, behind the counter, was this neatly arranged array of boxes. Each one filled with chopped vegetables, mushrooms, sauces, spices—everything prepped and ready to go. It wasn’t chaos; it was calm. Everything had its place.

Now, I know this kind of setup is common. Chinese restaurants all over the world use it. But at the time, I’d never seen anything like it. And that’s when it hit me:

The magic of cooking isn’t in the cooking—it’s in the preparation.

But here’s the twist. To me, it didn’t look like preparation. It looked like unfinished work. Unfinished work? That's an odd way to look at all of those well-chopped ingredients, but it was this weird concept of “unfinished work” that got my attention.

Today’s podcast is about that idea—about how so much of what we call creativity actually happens before we create anything. We’re going to look at writing, but in a slightly different way.

I’ll walk you through some of the techniques I’ve used over the last 25 years to write consistently, without running out of ideas and (for the most part) without hitting writer’s block.

1) The first tip is never to finish your writing.

I didn't say procrastination. I just said: leave it a bit unfinished. Let's say I start writing this article. I will write for a while, until I've got about ⅔ or even 4/5 of it done, and then I will take a break. I might go for a walk, grab a coffee, or even stop working for the day.

The logical move would be to finish the task and move on.

However, that system of getting the task done ends the momentum. Once I'm done, I'm done. However, this creates a problem for the next time I sit down to write.

It means I have to start from zero. If, on the other hand, I do most of the work and leave it unfinished, I have the wind behind my back. I can keep going and don't have to start with a blank page.

Leaving something unfinished seems counterproductive.

There's even a term for it. It's called the Zeigarnik Effect. This suggests that people remember unfinished or interrupted tasks better than completed ones.

This mental “incompleteness” keeps the task looping in your subconscious, often pushing you to return to it or solve it later, sometimes with surprising clarity.

Usually, this means that the final part of my writing is a done deal.

In reality, I could have finished the article, but chose not to do so. And because my brain continues to chug away in the background, it also seems to come up with the next step. In my case, that could be the following article or the next chapter if I'm writing a book.

Procrastination is usually when you avoid the entire task

My goal is to get going; otherwise, my brain will drive me mad. I'll be eating and thinking about the article I have still to write. I'll be walking, talking, doing other projects, and the thought of having to get the article done will continue to bug me.

It also drains my energy with a task that's not even begun. By choosing to write most of the article and leave just a tiny bit, we're still using the brain in the background, but now it's helping me move ahead.

I'd say don't finish what you're writing. Take a walk and talk about whatever you're writing about to someone else. The benefits of putting the last bit off definitely outweigh the benefits of finishing it all in one go.

2) The second tip is to listen to or read something in between breaks in your writing.

You know how the purple car concept works, don't you? You've seen red, white, green, orange, and even a polka dot car, but not purple. By some happy coincidence, you see a purple car—or at least something hideously mauve.

Something similar happens when you're writing and take a break.

You may have already put in some cool case studies, maybe a few examples in the article. You walk out into the street, snap on your headphones, and the first line that comes out of the podcaster's mouth is a story that you wouldn't have dreamed up in a thousand years.

When writing a book called “Suddenly Talented” I was looking for complete ineptitude.

People often come up to me and say, “I can't draw, I can't dance.” They may even say rather silly things like, “I don't have the ‘genes' to do this or that.” There are hundreds and possibly thousands of examples of people who have achieved skills, but those examples don't help make the point.

I went for a walk and slipped on my headphones.

I listen to all sorts of. podcasts and this one was about something that I have zero interest in. It was about Celebrity Masterchef, but I listened to it anyway. Remember what I set out to do?

I wanted a good example of someone pretty hopeless at a skill. Well, I got that and a lot more. Let me share this excerpt from the book.

What is skill, after all?

An answer appears on Celebrity Masterchef as we zoom in on the conversation between the judges and contestant Amar Latif. Serving sea bass on a vermicelli rice noodle salad flavoured with teriyaki sauce, he appears like any other aspiring chef.

The judges seem to approve of his dish.

“In your noodles, the ginger, garlic, onions, and coriander are fabulous with the fish. But your noodles are also fabulous because there’s sweet teriyaki sauce running through it,” says judge Greg Wallace.

“I think this is great. The fish is cooked beautifully. The skin is crispy. The big pieces of green chilli across the top are a little too big. However, the rest of it, I think, is fantastic,” chimes in John Torode, the second judge in the competition. It sounds like everyday TV until you realise that Amir Latif is blind.

I'll stop right there.

The guy on Celebrity Masterchef isn't just hopeless at cooking. He's also blind. I couldn't believe my ears. Before you think I'm putting down blind people, I'm not. My father ran a secretarial college, and the people who got 100% of their typing right every time were those with limited or no sight.

Hence, my admiration for someone overcoming an issue is extremely high. Let's not veer away from the point, though. The point was that I merely wanted an example of someone who considered themselves hopeless.

Yet, I got that this individual was not only terrible at cooking but also blind and had to learn how to cook with his mother over video chats. Then, he goes on to win Celebrity MasterChef.

Tell me you can beat those odds because I know you can.

You will find, as I have, that walking away and. listening to something else isn't a guaranteed jackpot. However, more often than not, you will find the odds are in your favour. Also, it's good to chat with someone about what you're writing.

Author, Michael Lewis has this neat little trick.

He doesn't tell others that he's written the story. He just tells them the story and waits for a reaction. Here he is on Masterclass.com in his own words:

Write the thing you're gonna write as best you can. Read it aloud to yourself, edit it, and get to the point where you feel it's kind of polished. It's a story of some sort.

And then try it out at a dinner party. Don't tell people that you've written it. Or on a walk with people. Just start to tell a story. As if it's just, oh, a story you know.

Make sure that you're writing it and see if you can keep their attention. And I try out material like this all the time. I'll try it with a group of friends, they have no idea I'm working on subject X.

I say, “I just heard this story” and I start talking. And I can tell by their response if it's working or not, whether they're bored or interested.

The problem with writing is that you don't see reactions from your audience. Only in very rare instances do you see someone reading your book and responding to your book.

But playing it for an audience without them knowing that's what you're doing, all of a sudden you see stuff in the material. You see, and beyond where interest flags.

You see, oh, I could have told it better if I'd not given that away up front kind of thing. It's, a live audience and it is extremely helpful. Especially when they don't know that's how you're using them.

I don't have to be, there's no rule I have to pretend to use. The strength of oral storytelling, of reading your own work or telling someone the story without, just to see how they respond. You purge your work of pretension, of idiocy that you don't spot until you say it and someone who hears it reacts to it,

It's an antidote to the, sort of like the risks of writing, the creative risks of writing. You're isolated, you're not able to speak. The creative risks of writing is you're isolated and you're in your little bubble and you don't know what you don't know. Talking to others opens up the printed work.”

Let's summarise this part a bit because it has a few points.

The first point is simply to listen or read something else in between. You know that research that you're always looking for? Ideally, you need to find the research before you write.

However, there's nothing to stop you from adding a story or example after you're almost done. If anything, you're more sure of what you're writing and the example is likely to be both unusual as well incredibly precise.

That's the first point. The second is talking to someone about it.

I talk to Renuka about the articles I'm writing, but often it's just a discussion. She already knows I am going to turn everything into an article, but it's still a discussion. If you have someone, anyone, who you can present an idea to, it almost immediately improves your writing.

Yes, your writing. You're not at your desk. You're walking about or just at the cafe, but that's where the story; the article is starting to become a much better version of itself.

Okay, so we have finished two sections.

We looked at the first tip, which is never to finish your writing. The second was this trip you need to take and encounter other audio, video or text. Or wait, even a human being.

Finally, we look at the third tip: outlines matter. But bulleted outlines matter more.

3) Outlines matter, but bulleted outlines matter more.

When we started doing the storytelling course at Psychotactics, I noticed clients getting quite frustrated.

Storytelling isn't exactly easy, even if you were to boil it down to four main concepts. A client has to learn, and then implement the concepts. On top of it all, they have to make the story interesting and keep it down to a paragraph or two.

If you think all of these steps sound like a lot of trouble, it's mostly because of the lack of outlining. More so, because the outlines are not in bullet points.

I'm not against scraps of paper, Post-its, or even fancy apps on the tablet.

However, you'll find to your amazement that bullet points give your thoughts a sense of order. You can type out a bullet point in a matter of minutes, skipping merrily to the next. While you're typing these points, you're not focused on editing your work.

If you start to write articles in paragraph form, you're usually in deep trouble.

You are almost always engaging with the backspace key on your keyboard, which is in almost direct contrast to when you type out bulleted outlines.

What's cool is that once you have bullets, you can easily move them around as needed. If you call yourself a perfectionist (well, almost everyone does), then you have the joy of being perfect in a fraction of the time.

You may hear some big-name authors say they never outline.

Well, I don't look at a recipe when I cook Indian food, either. That's because I've done more or less the same thing for decades on end. Just putting your faith that you'll be like some famous author is misplaced trust.

It's possible to write without too much of an outline, but professionals always outline. A movie isn't likely to be made without a storyboard, and that chef at the restaurant is working to a plan. Outlining matters, but bulleted outlines rock.

And with that, we have three core writing tips.

Even one of them will make a world of difference, but all three are pure magic. Let's go over them again, shall we?

The first tip is never to finish your writing.

The second tip is to listen to or read something in between breaks in your writing. Or talk to someone.

Finally, bulleted outlines work—and you know the reason why.

P.S. That Michael Lewis story got added as I went about writing this article. I posted this article and then Cliff Spenger added more detail to the Zeigarnik effect. And I did write this article with at least three separate breaks. Plus, I have outlines in bullet points. Except there were four bullet points and I decided to expand just three.


The Four Arms Of Perfection – A Deeper Insight

Author: Sean D'Souza

The Four Arms of Perfection: A Deeper Insight

We all want to be somehow perfect. It doesn’t matter that we know it’s not possible. In this article, we have four crazy arms of perfection brought to life by writer Keith Rhys. I wish I could have said it better, but Keith (alumni of the Article Writing Course) says it eloquently. You’ll relate to […]

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DaVinci Alumni Special

Author: Sean D'Souza

Special Davinci Alumni Invitation — 70% Off the Cartooning Course Since you’ve done the Davinci 2.0 cartooning course in the last few years, I wanted to extend a special opportunity just for you. We’re inviting alumni like you to join the upcoming round of the course—at a 70% discount. This isn’t a generic offer; it’s […]

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The Concept Of Take-Off Speed (And How It Enables You To Manage Many Things All At Once)

Author: Sean D'Souza

Why You Never get Projects Off the Ground

If you feel overwhelmed and seem to get nothing much done, you’re not alone. That’s because many of us go around in circles. We never attain take-off speed and are doomed to circle the airport endlessly. Or are we? In this article, we will examine why top speed is so crucial and how to get […]

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The Five-Year Lease Concept (And How It Builds Resilience)

Author: Sean D'Souza

shiny object syndrome

Do you sometimes think you have “shiny object syndrome”? Do you seem to hop from one thing to another, only to feel disappointed? What if you couldn’t change your mind so often? That’s what the “five-year” lease is all about. You somehow have to make it work. Let’s find out how to use the “five-year” […]

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Suddenly Talent: Book Reviews

Author: Sean D'Souza

I bought three copies of Suddenly Talented- one for myself and one for each of my kids.Eric Warezak, USA. My 13-year-old drew this in 2 Minutes. (After looking at the whale drawing and following the steps mentioned in the book—Suddenly Talented.Monika Burger, Germany I gave the book Suddenly Talented to a teacher. Myself.Nicholas Anderson, USA […]

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Travel Stories Through Rajasthan, India (Another Rollercoaster Trip)

Author: Sean D'Souza

Travel Rajasthan

Everyone loves travel stories. So let’s go on a journey to Rajasthan and Goa.  There were a lot of fun movements and some not so fun. Enjoy the trip to India. Right click to save this episode. Booking at two hotels for the same night seems like a mistake, but there was no error; it […]

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Suddenly Talented:Review—Mike S

Author: Sean D'Souza

Mike Sweeney Suddenly Talented: Draws a whale

Thanks for the Suddenly Talented book, Sean. It’s a very easy read. I don’t say that lightly, as I always struggle with reading due to ADHD. I often lose interest quickly, but not so with this.  My life experience tells me you’re bang on with how learning actually happens too. Here is a recent real […]

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How To Become Smarter By Utilising The “Database Concept”

Author: Sean D'Souza

How to become smarter by utilising the “Database Concept”

Imagine there are two computers. One computer is a standalone connected to nothing but the electrical supply. The second one is connected to a network of computers. Which of the two is likely to be more useful to you? A similar concept applies to learning. People with a greater database are almost always seen as […]

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